There have been many times in my life when I have felt I truly did not know if I could carry on. That the feeling of overwhelm constantly threatened and the belief 'I can't do this' was bigger than the knowledge that 'I can'.
I have met many other women for whom this is also true. Most people, whatever their gender, go through times in their lives when things are really tough and need help but I think that for women in particular the feeling of not being able to do it is a strong one.
Our society focuses a great deal on individualism, on being able to be independent, to have it all, do it all, make it happen, be everything to everyone. We have to play many different roles in our lives and there are times when simply it is all too much.
And one of the reasons for this, I think, is that
we believe we have to do it alone.
I believe that we, like wolves, are pack animals, that we need each other. We are interdependent, not meant to do it all by ourselves (I suppose the odd lone wolf is the exception to prove the rule!). Isolation and loneliness literally kill. When we understand that we were meant to work with others, to share and be in community, it is a very powerful realisation.
Cultivating the ability to work with others, to ask for help then, is of vital importance. When I first graduated as a dance and movement psychotherapist, I ran monthly movement classes for a year. I did it all by myself and it was tough. I decided then that I wanted to work with at least one other person from then on because I wanted someone to share it all with - the work yes but also the joys, the creativity and successes. And since then I've done exactly that.
To share, to communicate, to bond is human nature. To need encouragement, help, support, someone to laugh and cry with, someone to bounce ideas off or tell us where we're going wrong is vital to our development and even our health and wellbeing.
It is one of the may reasons why I do the work I do: because I know from my own experience that when we reach the point of feeling 'I can't', we need a little perspective, someone to believe in us and someone to tell us it's all going to be ok. Because when we get that, when we really feel that someone is there for us, it makes all the difference in the world to know we're not alone.
If you have reached a point of 'I can't' in your life and would like someone there to offer inspiration, support and compassion through one-to-one EMS coaching sessions, email me today and let me help you remember you don't have to do it all alone.
I have met many other women for whom this is also true. Most people, whatever their gender, go through times in their lives when things are really tough and need help but I think that for women in particular the feeling of not being able to do it is a strong one.
Our society focuses a great deal on individualism, on being able to be independent, to have it all, do it all, make it happen, be everything to everyone. We have to play many different roles in our lives and there are times when simply it is all too much.
And one of the reasons for this, I think, is that
we believe we have to do it alone.
I believe that we, like wolves, are pack animals, that we need each other. We are interdependent, not meant to do it all by ourselves (I suppose the odd lone wolf is the exception to prove the rule!). Isolation and loneliness literally kill. When we understand that we were meant to work with others, to share and be in community, it is a very powerful realisation.
Cultivating the ability to work with others, to ask for help then, is of vital importance. When I first graduated as a dance and movement psychotherapist, I ran monthly movement classes for a year. I did it all by myself and it was tough. I decided then that I wanted to work with at least one other person from then on because I wanted someone to share it all with - the work yes but also the joys, the creativity and successes. And since then I've done exactly that.
To share, to communicate, to bond is human nature. To need encouragement, help, support, someone to laugh and cry with, someone to bounce ideas off or tell us where we're going wrong is vital to our development and even our health and wellbeing.
It is one of the may reasons why I do the work I do: because I know from my own experience that when we reach the point of feeling 'I can't', we need a little perspective, someone to believe in us and someone to tell us it's all going to be ok. Because when we get that, when we really feel that someone is there for us, it makes all the difference in the world to know we're not alone.
If you have reached a point of 'I can't' in your life and would like someone there to offer inspiration, support and compassion through one-to-one EMS coaching sessions, email me today and let me help you remember you don't have to do it all alone.